Divorcing and Marrying Again - An Intense Discussion

By Isaac Aluochier

 

The following is a compilation of an intense discussion between a reader of the author's article "Divorcing and Marrying Again Without Sinning", published at http://www.ServeYahweh.org/Articles/divorcing.htm. All of the author's scriptural quotations are from the Hebrew Names Version of the World English Bible available at http://www.ebible.org/bible/hnv/. The reader's comments are indented and in blue. The author's comments are in black. Indented comments in italic belong to the author, being quotations by the reader.

CONTENTS

SUMMARY

  1. The Reader's Position
  2. The Author's Position
  3. [April 2000 View: The Author's Position

READER'S FIRST WRITING

Reader Highlights Areas Of Disagreement

AUTHOR'S FIRST RESPONSE

AUTHOR'S SECOND RESPONSE

  1. Is A Woman Who Objects To Her Husband's Unjust Divorce Free To Marry Again While Her Unjustly Divorcing Husband Lives?
  2. Does Not Matthew 5:32 Forbid A Divorced Woman From Marrying Again?
  3. Are Not Unjust Divorces Null And Void Before The Almighty?
  4. How An Illegally Divorced Wife Avoids Adultery
  5. Illegally Divorced Wife Must Strive To Live Righteously
  6. Do Luke 16:18 And Matthew 5:32 Give A Divorced Woman Authority To Marry Again?
  7. Does A Wife Have The Almighty's Authority To Divorce Her Husband And Marry Again?
  8. A Wife Is Released From Her Husband's Authority Upon His Death
  9. A Wife Does Not Have The Almighty's Authority To Divorce Her Husband
  10. Do Believers Married To One Another Have The Almighty's Authority To Divorce And Marry Again?
  11. Who Grants A Divorce Decree In A Marriage Between Two Believers?
  12. Does The Almighty Break Marriage Covenants Between The Messiah's Disciples?
  13. A Believing Wife Departed From Her Believing Husband Must Be Reconciled To Him
  14. Is A Believer Deserted By An Unbelieving Spouse Free To Marry Again?
  15. Are The Words Of 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 The Almighty's?
  16. The Messiah's Words Still Stand
  17. Paul's Words In 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 Silent On A Believer Marrying Again
  18. Is Divorcing And Marrying Again Necessary To Save One's Life?
  19. The Messiah's Command To Those Who Are Persecuted
  20. An Effect Of Inflicting Physical Injury To Those Under One's Authority
  21. [April 2000 Addendum: Separation From An Abusive Spouse Is Not Divorce

READER'S SECOND WRITING

  1. Is A Divorced Woman Who Becomes A Believer Allowed To Marry Again?
  2. Is A Justly Divorced Woman Who Repents Of Her Adultery Allowed To Marry Again?
  3. Do Human Opinions Supersede The Messiah's Clear Words?
  4. Did The Messiah Allow A Justly Divorced Woman To Marry Again Upon Her Repentance?
  5. Are Unjust Divorces Valid In The Almighty's Eyes?
  6. Does The Almighty Punish Unjustly Divorced Wives By Condemning Them To A Life Of Singlehood?
  7. Whose Understanding Of The Almighty's Word Is Correct - The Reader's Or The Author's?
  8. Is It An Insult To The Integrity And Fairness Of The Almighty To Forbid An Unjustly Divorced Woman From Marrying Again?
  9. Does Galatians 3:28, Taken Together With Other Scriptures, Give Women Authority To Divorce And Marry Again?
  10. Is The Reality Of Separation Sufficient Ground For Divorce Valid In The Almighty's Eyes?
  11. Can Man VALIDLY Tear Apart A Union Effected By The Almighty?
  12. Has The Almighty Given An OPTION To Married Believers Estranged From One Another To Avoid Reconciliation?
  13. Do Estranged Married Believers Who Do Not Reconcile Continue To Abide In The Almighty's Fellowship?
  14. Do The Words In 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 Belong To The Almighty?
  15. Apart From Sexual Immorality, Has The Almighty Allowed Other Causes For Divorce?
  16. Paul's Words In 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 Silent On A Deserted Believer Marrying Again
  17. What Is The Scriptural Definition Of Persecution?
  18. Does A Husband Have Authority Over His Wife?

AUTHOR'S RESPONSE TO READER'S SECOND WRITING

  1. Does Accepting The Messiah As One's Saviour Alter One's Marital Status?
  2. A Repentant Woman Previously An Adulteress Must Live As A Single Woman If She Has Been Divorced By Her Husband
  3. [April 2000 view: A Repentant Woman Previously An Adulteress Must Live As A Single Woman If She Has Been Divorced By Her Husband
  4. Is A Validly Divorced Woman Allowed To Marry Again On Account Of Her Repentance?
  5. Punishment Is Effected Against Offences
  6. Is It Possible To Enter Into Life Without A Part Of One's Body?
  7. Penalty Against Adultery Stands
  8. Are Unlawful Divorces Valid In The Almighty's Eyes?
  9. Unlawful Divorces Are Null And Void Before The Almighty
  10. Even In Some Human Laws A Frustrated Contract Is Not Necessarily Annulled
  11. Who Is Responsible For An Unjust Divorce?
  12. An Errant Husband Is Responsible For Unjustly Divorcing His Wife
  13. Unjustly Divorced Wife Has No Authority To Commit Sin On Account Of Her Husband's Sin Against Her
  14. Unjustly Divorced Wife Should Live The Life Of A Righteous Single Woman
  15. The Almighty Will Strengthen An Unjustly Divorced Woman To Live Righteously Before Him
  16. Eunuchs Who Have Been Made Eunuchs By Men
  17. The Life Of A Single Person Is Not Necessarily Miserable
  18. Is It A Direct Insult To The Integrity Of The Almighty To Forbid An Unjustly Divorced Woman From Marrying Again?
  19. It Is The Offending Husband Who Is Unjust, Not The Almighty
  20. Righteous People Suffer Unjustly With The Almighty's Permission
  21. An Unjustly Divorced Woman Who Does Not Marry Again For The Sake Of The Kingdom Will Be Rewarded
  22. Is Unlawful Marriage More Important Than Securing The Promise Of The Kingdom?
  23. Unjustly Divorced Woman Should Choose Her Continued Unjust Suffering For The Sake Of The Kingdom
  24. Is Not A Husband In Authority Over His Wife?
  25. A Wife Does Not Have The Almighty's Authority To Remove Herself From Under Her Husband's Authority
  26. Is It Horrible And Terribly Unfair To Deny A Wife Authority To Divorce Her Husband?
  27. Galatians 3:28 Is Talking About Salvation, Not Household Authority
  28. Do Unlawful Divorces Of Marriages Effected By The Almighty Give Authority To Marry Again To Those Unlawfully Divorced?
  29. Does The Almighty Give Separated Married Believers The OPTION Of Not Reconciling?
  30. Believers Have NO OPTION To Avoid Reconciliation With Other Believers
  31. Paul Was Giving His Own Opinion In Giving Believers An Option To Avoid Reconciliation
  32. The Messiah's View Prevails Over That Of His Servants
  33. Can Believers Sever Their Marriages On A Ground Not Involving Sexual Immorality?
  34. The Messiah's Disciples MUST Abide By His Words
  35. Assessing Whether A Person Is Speaking Under The Inspiration Of The Almighty
  36. Those Saying That 1 Corinthians 7:12 Was Inspired Contradict Paul's Clear Words
  37. Does 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 Authorise Believers To Divorce Their Unbelieving Spouses?
  38. Does 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 Give A Deserted Believer Authority To Marry Again?
  39. Assessing The Inspiration Of Words
  40. Reader And Author In Fundamental Disagreement

READER'S THIRD WRITING

  1. Reader Modifies Some Of His Views
  2. Reader's View On Becoming A New Creature In The Messiah
  3. Is The Almighty A Liar If He Forbids From Marrying Again A Divorced Woman Who Has Repented Of Her Adultery?
  4. Reader's View On Forgiveness Differs From That Of The Author
  5. Does A Lawful Marriage Contract Cease To Exist Simply Because A Party To The Contract Breaks It?
  6. Is It Cruelty And Evil To Forbid An Unjustly Divorced Woman From Marrying Again?
  7. Is It Cruelty And Evil For The Almighty To Impart His Spirit Of Self-Control To An Unjustly Divorced Woman?
  8. Is Matthew 19:11-12 Irrelevant To The Subject Of Divorce And Marrying Again?
  9. Can An Unjustly Divorced Woman Be Equated To A Eunuch?
  10. Is The Life Of A Single Person Necessarily A Miserable One?
  11. Is The Stipulation Forbidding An Unlawfully Divorced Woman Marrying Again A Direct Insult To The Almighty's Integrity And Fairness?
  12. Is Matthew 5:10-12 Irrelevant To An Unjustly Divorced Woman?
  13. Is It The Case That The Almighty Never Allows Unjustly Divorced Women To Suffer?
  14. Reader Does Not Accept The Author's Words Based On Matthew 5:10-12
  15. Are Christian Husbands The Masters Of Their Own Households Or Not?
  16. Has The Author Portrayed Women As Second-Class People?
  17. Reader Reiterates That Unjust Divorces Are Valid In The Almighty's Eyes
  18. What Is The Huge Difference Between Forgiveness And Reconciliation?
  19. Are All Of Paul's Words In Complete Harmony With The Scriptures?
  20. Reader Clarifies His Understanding On The Difference Between Forgiveness And Reconciliation
  21. Reader Alleges That An Unjust Divorce Is Not Sin, Provided One Does Not Marry Again
  22. Reader Rejects The Author's Rendition Of The Messiah's Words
  23. Reader Believes Paul Was Speaking Under The Holy Spirit's Inspiration, Even When Paul Said That His Comments Were Not The Almighty's
  24. Reader Disputes The Factual Basis Of The Author's Reasoning

AUTHOR'S BRIEF RESPONSE TO READER'S THIRD WRITING

A Prayer For Repentance And The Holy Spirit's Guidance

AUTHOR'S DETAILED RESPONSE TO READER'S THIRD WRITING

  1. Does The Almighty Rule Out Punishment For Sin He Has Forgiven?
  2. King David's Adultery With Bat-Sheva
  3. Did The Almighty Forgive David When He Repented Of His Adultery?
  4. Did Not The Almighty Effect Punishment On David's House Despite Having Forgiven Him?
  5. Was The Almighty A Liar For Effecting Punishment Despite Having Forgiven?
  6. Does Not Scripture Affirm That The Almighty Never Lies?
  7. Change Your Faulty Understanding
  8. The Account In 2 Samuel 12:1-25
  9. HOW The Almighty Forgave David
  10. A Forgiven Divorced Woman Must Still Not Marry Again
  11. Is It Cruelty And Evil For An Unjustly Divorced Woman Being Forbidden From Marrying Again?
  12. It Is An Offending Husband, And Not The Almighty, Who Punishes An Unjustly Divorced Wife
  13. Avshalom Rapes His Father's Wives
  14. David's Raped Wives Confined To A Life Of Widowhood Until Their Deaths
  15. Whose Cruelty Resulted In David's Raped Wives Being Confined "To A Lifetime Of Loneliness"?
  16. The Law With Respect To One's Sexually Defiled Wife
  17. David Acted In Compliance With Yahweh's Law
  18. Is Yahweh Cruel For Having Such A Law?
  19. The Callous Are Those Who Do Not Delight In Yahweh's Law
  20. Neither Yahweh Nor David Was Callous In The Confinement Of David's Wives "To A Lifetime Of Loneliness"
  21. Reader Attributes, By His False Doctrine, Callousness, Cruelty And Evil To The Almighty
  22. [April 2000 View: The Law With Respect To One's Sexually Defiled Wife
  23. What Is Love And Righteousness?
  24. Has The Reader, By His Words, Blasphemed Against The Almighty?
  25. Penalty Against Those Who Blaspheme Against The Almighty
  26. Those Who Do Not Have The Almighty's Love In Them
  27. Those Who Are Of The Devil
  28. Those Who Love The Messiah
  29. The Messiah's Friends
  30. The World Hates The Messiah's Servants
  31. Those Who Know The Almighty
  32. Those Who Love The World
  33. Those Who Love The Almighty's Children
  34. Those Who Abide In The Almighty's Love
  35. Has The Old Covenant Been Done Away With?
  36. The Messiah Did NOT Come To Destroy The Law And The Prophets
  37. Why Does The Reader Not Abide In The Messiah's Word?
  38. The Messiah's Disciples In All Nations Are To Be Taught All Things The Messiah Taught His Disciples
  39. What The Messiah's Servants Should Be Teachings His Disciples The World Over
  40. Why Is The Reader Not Abiding In The Messiah's Words?
  41. Author Corrects Erroneous Impression Of The Reader
  42. Was The Messiah Called To A Life Of Human Marriage When He Came As A Human Being?
  43. Who Is Forcing Unjustly Divorced Wives Into A Life Of Singleness?
  44. The Almighty Allows Unjust Suffering
  45. Is The Author Trying To Force A Cruel Lifestyle Onto Other People?
  46. Are Husbands Masters Over Their Wives?
  47. The Apostle Peter's Teaching
  48. Wives Are To Be Subject To Their Husbands, Including Unbelieving Husbands
  49. The Almighty's Order In The Family
  50. The Messiah Encounters An Adulterous Woman In Samaria
  51. Just Because A Man Is Living Together With A Woman Does Not Necessarily Constitute Marriage In The Almighty's Eyes
  52. Why Is The Reader Teaching Brethren Not To Have Fellowship With The Almighty?
  53. The Reader's Words Conflict With The Messiah's Words

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