COMMENTARY ON SOME OF MOSES' WORDS ON MARRIAGE

Sarai's Was Barren

Genesis 11:29-30 reads,

11:29Abram and Nahor took wives. The name of Abram’s wife was Sarai, and the name of Nahor’s wife, Milcah, the daughter of Haran who was also the father of Iscah. 11:30Sarai was barren. She had no child.

Why was Sarai barren? Was her barrenness the result of her sin? Was it the result of the sin of one of her ancestors?

 

A Man Born Blind

John 9:1-7 reads,

9:1As he passed by, he saw a man blind from birth. 9:2His disciples asked him, "Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?"

9:3Jesus answered, "Neither did this man sin, nor his parents. But, that the works of God might be revealed in him, 9:4I must work the works of him who sent me, while it is day. The night is coming, when no one can work. 9:5When I am in the world, I am the light of the world." 9:6When he had said this, he spat on the ground, made mud with the saliva, anointed the blind man’s eyes with the mud, 9:7and said to him, "Go, wash in the pool of Siloam" (which means "Sent"). So he went away, washed, and came seeing.

Isn't it clear that the man was born blind not on account of his sin or that of his parents, but that Yahweh's works might be revealed in him?

 

Yahweh Opened Sarah's Womb

Genesis 21:1-7 reads,

21:1Yahweh visited Sarah as he had said, and Yahweh did to Sarah as he had spoken. 21:2Sarah conceived, and bore Abraham a son in his old age, at the set time of which God had spoken to him. 21:3Abraham called his son who was born to him, whom Sarah bare to him, Isaac. 21:4Abraham circumcised his son, Isaac, when he was eight days old, as God had commanded him. 21:5Abraham was one hundred years old when his son, Isaac, was born to him. 21:6Sarah said, "God has made me laugh. Everyone who hears will laugh with me." 21:7She said, "Who would have said to Abraham, that Sarah would nurse children? For I have borne him a son in his old age."

 

Why Sarah Was Barren

Seeing that Yahweh opened Sarah's womb after her normal childbearing period was over, and seeing that she had been barren all her life, isn't it likely that Sarah's barrenness was not the result of her sin or that of her parents? Isn't it the case that Sarah's barrenness was on account of Yahweh's works being revealed in her? Wasn't Sarah's barrenness for Yahweh's glorification?

 

Why Some People Apparently Suffer From Curses

Doesn't it therefore appear that it is not always the case that when a person appears to be suffering from a curse it is the result of his sin or that of his parents? Don't some apparent curses exist that Yahweh may indeed work his works in those people so afflicted? Don't some apparent curses exist that Yahweh may glorify his name?

 

What Does It Mean For A Man To Multiply Wives To Himself?

Deuteronomy 17:14-20 reads,

17:14When you are come to the land which Yahweh your God gives you, and shall possess it, and shall dwell therein, and shall say, I will set a king over me, like all the nations that are round about me; 17:15you shall surely set him king over you, whom Yahweh your God shall choose: one from among your brothers shall you set king over you; you may not put a foreigner over you, who is not your brother. 17:16Only he shall not multiply horses to himself, nor cause the people to return to Egypt, to the end that he may multiply horses; because Yahweh has said to you, You shall henceforth return no more that way. 17:17Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart not turn away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold. 17:18It shall be, when he sits on the throne of his kingdom, that he shall write him a copy of this law in a book, out of that which is before the priests the Levites: 17:19and it shall be with him, and he shall read therein all the days of his life; that he may learn to fear Yahweh his God, to keep all the words of this law and these statutes, to do them; 17:20that his heart not be lifted up above his brothers, and that he not turn aside from the commandment, to the right hand, or to the left: to the end that he may prolong his days in his kingdom, he and his children, in the midst of Israel.

 

David Had Two Wives At The Time He Became King Over Judah

2 Samuel 2:1-4 reads,

2:1It happened after this, that David inquired of Yahweh, saying, Shall I go up into any of the cities of Judah? Yahweh said to him, Go up. David said, Where shall I go up? He said, To Hebron. 2:2So David went up there, and his two wives also, Ahinoam the Jezreelitess, and Abigail the wife of Nabal the Carmelite. 2:3His men who were with him did David bring up, every man with his household: and they lived in the cities of Hebron. 2:4The men of Judah came, and there they anointed David king over the house of Judah. They told David, saying, The men of Jabesh-gilead were those who buried Saul.

Wasn't David, at the time he was anointed king over the house of Judah, having two wives - Ahinoam the Jezreelitess and Abigail the widow of Nabal the Carmelite?

 

David Had Six Wives In Hebron

2 Samuel 3:2-5 reads,

3:2To David were sons born in Hebron: and his firstborn was Amnon, of Ahinoam the Jezreelitess; 3:3and his second, Chileab, of Abigail the wife of Nabal the Carmelite; and the third, Absalom the son of Maacah the daughter of Talmai king of Geshur; 3:4and the fourth, Adonijah the son of Haggith; and the fifth, Shephatiah the son of Abital; 3:5and the sixth, Ithream, of Eglah, David’s wife. These were born to David in Hebron.

Didn't David have at least six wives in Hebron, who bore him sons?

 

David Had Seven Wives In Hebron

2 Samuel 3:14-16 reads,

3:14David sent messengers to Ish-bosheth, Saul’s son, saying, Deliver me my wife Michal, whom I pledged to be married to me for one hundred foreskins of the Philistines. 3:15Ish-bosheth sent, and took her from her husband, even from Paltiel the son of Laish. 3:16Her husband went with her, weeping as he went, and followed her to Bahurim. Then said Abner to him, Go, return: and he returned.

Counting also Michal, didn't David have at least seven wives in Hebron?

 

David Took More Concubines And Wives When He Moved To Jerusalem From Hebron

2 Samuel 5:1-16 reads,

5:1Then came all the tribes of Israel to David to Hebron, and spoke, saying, Behold, we are your bone and your flesh. 5:2In times past, when Saul was king over us, it was you who led out and brought in Israel: and Yahweh said to you, You shall be shepherd of my people Israel, and you shall be prince over Israel. 5:3So all the elders of Israel came to the king to Hebron; and king David made a covenant with them in Hebron before Yahweh: and they anointed David king over Israel. 5:4David was thirty years old when he began to reign, and he reigned forty years. 5:5In Hebron he reigned over Judah seven years and six months; and in Jerusalem he reigned thirty-three years over all Israel and Judah. 5:6The king and his men went to Jerusalem against the Jebusites, the inhabitants of the land, who spoke to David, saying, Except you take away the blind and the lame, you shall not come in here; thinking, David can’t come in here. 5:7Nevertheless David took the stronghold of Zion; the same is the city of David. 5:8David said on that day, Whoever strikes the Jebusites, let him get up to the watercourse, and strike the lame and the blind, who are hated of David’s soul. Therefore they say, There are the blind and the lame; he can’t come into the house. 5:9David lived in the stronghold, and called it the city of David. David built round about from Millo and inward. 5:10David grew greater and greater; for Yahweh, the God of hosts, was with him. 5:11Hiram king of Tyre sent messengers to David, and cedar trees, and carpenters, and masons; and they built David a house. 5:12David perceived that Yahweh had established him king over Israel, and that he had exalted his kingdom for his people Israel’s sake. 5:13David took him more concubines and wives out of Jerusalem, after he was come from Hebron; and there were yet sons and daughters born to David. 5:14These are the names of those who were born to him in Jerusalem: Shammua, and Shobab, and Nathan, and Solomon, 5:15and Ibhar, and Elishua, and Nepheg, and Japhia, 5:16and Elishama, and Eliada, and Eliphelet.

Didn't David add more wives and concubines to the two that he had at the time he assumed rulership over the house of Judah? Didn't he have at least seven wives at the time he assumed rulership over the house of Israel also? And didn't David's additional wives and concubines bear him a number of children, including at least eleven in Jerusalem?

 

David Took Uriah's Widow As Wife In Addition To His Other Wives And Concubines

2 Samuel 11:26-27 reads,

11:26When the wife of Uriah heard that Uriah her husband was dead, she made lamentation for her husband. 11:27When the mourning was past, David sent and took her home to his house, and she became his wife, and bore him a son. But the thing that David had done displeased Yahweh.

 

Yahweh Was The One Who Gave David His Wives

2 Samuel 12:7-12 reads,

12:7Nathan said to David, "You are the man. This is what Yahweh, the God of Israel, says: ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you out of the hand of Saul. 12:8I gave you your master’s house, and your master’s wives into your bosom, and gave you the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that would have been too little, I would have added to you many more such things. 12:9Why have you despised the word of Yahweh, to do that which is evil in his sight? You have struck Uriah the Hittite with the sword, and have taken his wife to be your wife, and have slain him with the sword of the children of Ammon. 12:10Now therefore the sword will never depart from your house, because you have despised me, and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife.’ 12:11This is what Yahweh says: ‘Behold, I will raise up evil against you out of your own house; and I will take your wives before your eyes, and give them to your neighbor, and he will lie with your wives in the sight of this sun. 12:12For you did it secretly, but I will do this thing before all Israel, and before the sun.’"

 

Yahweh Was Prepared To Add More Wives To David If Those He Already Had Were Insufficient

Seeing that David already had a number of wives and concubines at the time Yahweh spoke to him by Nathan - at least seven wives excluding concubines and wives taken in Jerusalem, and Yahweh was still talking about the possibility of adding many more wives to David, isn't it clear that David had not multiplied wives unto himself? Isn't it therefore the case that even though David had many wives and concubines - more than seven wives, he had not multiplied wives to himself, seeing that Yahweh was prepared to add more wives to him if those he had already given him were not enough?

 

David Did Not Multiply Wives To Himself Despite Having Eight Wives And Concubines

How many wives did David have?

Including Bathsheba, Uriah's widow, didn't David have at least eight wives, not counting the concubines?

Isn't it therefore clear that a man having at least eight wives, plus concubines, is not multiplying wives unto himself? And in uttering these comments, isn't it Yahweh's words that one is relying on - his words in 2 Samuel 12:8?

 

David Had At Least Ten Concubines

2 Samuel 15:13-17 reads,

15:13There came a messenger to David, saying, The hearts of the men of Israel are after Absalom. 15:14David said to all his servants who were with him at Jerusalem, Arise, and let us flee; for else none of us shall escape from Absalom: make speed to depart, lest he overtake us quickly, and bring down evil on us, and strike the city with the edge of the sword. 15:15The king’s servants said to the king, Behold, your servants are ready to do whatever my lord the king shall choose. 15:16The king went forth, and all his household after him. The king left ten women, who were concubines, to keep the house. 15:17The king went forth, and all the people after him; and they stayed in Beth-merhak.

Counting these 10 concubines of David, in addition to his eight named wives, didn't David have at least 18 wives and concubines?

 

David Had Still More Concubines

2 Samuel 19:1-7 reads,

19:1It was told Joab, Behold, the king weeps and mourns for Absalom. 19:2The victory that day was turned into mourning to all the people; for the people heard say that day, The king grieves for his son. 19:3The people got them by stealth that day into the city, as people who are ashamed steal away when they flee in battle. 19:4The king covered his face, and the king cried with a loud voice, my son Absalom, Absalom, my son, my son! 19:5Joab came into the house to the king, and said, You have shamed this day the faces of all your servants, who this day have saved your life, and the lives of your sons and of your daughters, and the lives of your wives, and the lives of your concubines; 19:6in that you love those who hate you, and hate those who love you. For you have declared this day, that princes and servants are nothing to you: for this day I perceive that if Absalom had lived, and all we had died this day, then it had pleased you well. 19:7Now therefore arise, go forth, and speak comfortably to your servants; for I swear by Yahweh, if you don’t go forth, there will not stay a man with you this night: and that will be worse to you than all the evil that has befallen you from your youth until now.

 

David Had A Total Of About 20 Wives And Concubines

Seeing that there were additional concubines of David who were saved from death on account of Absalom's rebellion, doesn't it appear that David had concubines in addition to the 10 that he left behind in Jerusalem to keep the house? Doesn't it appear that David had more than 18 wives and concubines? And isn't it clear, from Yahweh's word in 2 Samuel 12:8, that Yahweh could still have added more wives to David if those that he had already given him were not enough for him? Isn't it therefore clear that a man having about 20 wives and concubines is not multiplying wives unto himself?

 

Solomon Had 700 Wives And 300 Concubines

1 Kings 11:1-13 reads,

11:1Now king Solomon loved many foreign women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians, and Hittites; 11:2of the nations concerning which Yahweh said to the children of Israel, You shall not go among them, neither shall they come among you; for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon joined to these in love. 11:3He had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines; and his wives turned away his heart. 11:4For it happened, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods; and his heart was not perfect with Yahweh his God, as was the heart of David his father. 11:5For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. 11:6Solomon did that which was evil in the sight of Yahweh, and didn’t go fully after Yahweh, as did David his father. 11:7Then did Solomon build a high place for Chemosh the abomination of Moab, on the mountain that is before Jerusalem, and for Molech the abomination of the children of Ammon. 11:8So did he for all his foreign wives, who burnt incense and sacrificed to their gods. 11:9Yahweh was angry with Solomon, because his heart was turned away from Yahweh, the God of Israel, who had appeared to him twice, 11:10and had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods: but he didn’t keep that which Yahweh commanded. 11:11Therefore Yahweh said to Solomon, Because this is done of you, and you have not kept my covenant and my statutes, which I have commanded you, I will surely tear the kingdom from you, and will give it to your servant. 11:12Notwithstanding in your days I will not do it, for David your father’s sake: but I will tear it out of the hand of your son. 11:13However I will not tear away all the kingdom; but I will give one tribe to your son, for David my servant’s sake, and for Jerusalem’s sake which I have chosen.

 

Solomon Fulfilled Yahweh's Warning Prophecy In Deuteronomy 17

Didn't the practices of Solomon and the result of his life fulfil Yahweh's warning prophecy in Deuteronomy 17? Didn't Yahweh warn the king over his people not to multiply wives unto himself, lest his heart turn away from following after Yahweh? Didn't Solomon's heart eventually turn from following after Yahweh, seeing that he multiplied wives unto himself - of the nations Yahweh forbade Israel from marrying?

 

Solomon Multiplied Wives To Himself While David Did Not

Contrasting David and Solomon, isn't it seen that Solomon had probably about 50 times as many wives and concubines as his father David had? Didn't Solomon clearly multiply wives unto himself, while David only added wives unto himself?

 

A Man Having About 20 Wives Is Not Multiplying Wives To Himself

Didn't David remain faithful to Yahweh, with a heart perfect with Yahweh, while having about 20 wives and concubines? Didn't David's example show that it is indeed possible for one's heart to be perfect with Yahweh, to go fully after Yahweh, while having about 20 wives and concubines? Isn't it therefore clear that a man who has about 20 wives and concubines has not multiplied wives to himself, but is still within an appropriate capacity for faithfully serving Yahweh?

 


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