YITZCHAK'S MARRIAGE TO RIVKA

  • Beresheet 24:1-67

24:1Avraham was old, and well stricken in age. Yahweh had blessed Avraham in all things. 24:2Avraham said to his servant, the elder of his house, who ruled over all that he had, "Please put your hand under my thigh. 24:3I will make you swear by Yahweh, the Mighty One of heaven and the Mighty One of the eretz, that you shall not take a wife for my son of the daughters of the Kana`anim, among whom I live. 24:4But you shall go to my country, and to my relatives, and take a wife for my son Yitzchak."

24:5The servant said to him, "What if the woman isn't willing to follow me to this land? Must I bring your son again to the land you came from?"

24:6Avraham said to him, "Beware that you don't bring my son there again. 24:7Yahweh, the Mighty One of heaven, who took me from my father's house, and from the land of my birth, who spoke to me, and who swore to me, saying, 'To your descendants I will give this land,' he will send his angel before you. And you shall take a wife for my son from there. 24:8If the woman isn't willing to follow you, then you shall be clear from this my oath. Only you shall not bring my son there again."

24:9The servant put his hand under the thigh of Avraham his master, and swore to him concerning this matter. 24:10The servant took ten camels, of his master's camels, and departed, having all goodly things of his master in his hand. He arose, and went to Aram-Naharayim, to the city of Nachor. 24:11He made the camels kneel down outside the city by the well of water at the time of evening, the time that women go out to draw water. 24:12He said, "Yahweh, the Mighty One of my master Avraham, please give me success this day, and show kindness to my master Avraham. 24:13Behold, I am standing by the spring of water. The daughters of the men of the city are coming out to draw water. 24:14Let it happen, that the young lady to whom I will say, 'Please let down your pitcher, that I may drink.' She will say, 'Drink, and I will also give your camels a drink.' Let the same be she who you have appointed for your servant Yitzchak. Thereby will I know that you have showed kindness to my master."

24:15It happened, before he had done speaking, that behold, Rivka came out, who was born to Betu'el the son of Milkah, the wife of Nachor, Avraham's brother, with her pitcher on her shoulder. 24:16The young lady was very beautiful to look at, a virgin, neither had any man known her. She went down to the spring, filled her pitcher, and came up. 24:17The servant ran to meet her, and said, "Please give me a drink, a little water from your pitcher."

24:18She said, "Drink, my master." She hurried, and let down her pitcher on her hand, and gave him drink. 24:19When she had done giving him drink, she said, "I will also draw for your camels, until they have done drinking." 24:20She hurried, and emptied her pitcher into the trough, and ran again to the well to draw, and drew for all his camels.

24:21The man looked steadfastly at her, holding his shalom, to know whether Yahweh had made his journey prosperous or not. 24:22It happened, as the camels had done drinking, that the man took a golden ring of half a shekel weight, and two bracelets for her hands of ten shekels weight of gold, 24:23and said, "Whose daughter are you? Please tell me. Is there room in your father's house for us to lodge in?"

24:24She said to him, "I am the daughter of Betu'el the son of Milkah, whom she bore to Nachor." 24:25She said moreover to him, "We have both straw and provender enough, and room to lodge in."

24:26The man bowed his head, and worshiped Yahweh. 24:27He said, "Blessed be Yahweh, the Mighty One of my master Avraham, who has not forsaken his lovingkindness and his truth toward my master. As for me, Yahweh has led me in the way to the house of my master's relatives."

24:28The young lady ran, and told her mother's house about these words. 24:29Rivka had a brother, and his name was Lavan. Lavan ran out to the man, to the spring. 24:30It happened, when he saw the ring, and the bracelets on his sister's hands, and when he heard the words of Rivka his sister, saying, "This is what the man said to me," that he came to the man. Behold, he was standing by the camels at the spring. 24:31He said, "Come in, you blessed of Yahweh. Why do you stand outside? For I have prepared the house, and room for the camels."

24:32The man came into the house, and he unloaded the camels. He gave straw and provender for the camels, and water to wash his feet and the feet of the men who were with him. 24:33Food was set before him to eat. But he said, "I will not eat until I have told my message."

He said, "Speak on."

24:34He said, "I am Avraham's servant. 24:35Yahweh has blessed my master greatly. He has become great. He has given him flocks and herds, silver and gold, men-servants and maid-servants, and camels and donkeys. 24:36Sarah, my master's wife, bore a son to my master when she was old. He has given all that he has to him. 24:37My master made me swear, saying, 'You shall not take a wife for my son of the daughters of the Kana`anim, in whose land I live, 24:38but you shall go to my father's house, and to my relatives, and take a wife for my son.' 24:39I said to my master, 'What if the woman will not follow me?' 24:40He said to me, 'Yahweh, before whom I walk, will send his angel with you, and prosper your way. You shall take a wife for my son of my relatives, and of my father's house. 24:41Then will you be clear from my oath, when you come to my relatives. If they don't give her to you, you shall be clear from my oath.' 24:42I came this day to the spring, and said, 'Yahweh, the Mighty One of my master Avraham, if now you do prosper my way which I go. 24:43Behold, I am standing by the spring of water. Let it happen, that the almah who comes forth to draw, to whom I will say, "Give me, I pray you, a little water from your pitcher to drink," 24:44she will tell me, "Drink, and I will also draw for your camels." Let the same be the woman whom Yahweh has appointed for my master's son.' 24:45Before I had done speaking in my heart, behold, Rivka came forth with her pitcher on her shoulder. She went down to the spring, and drew. I said to her, 'Please let me drink.' 24:46She hurried and let down her pitcher from her shoulder, and said, 'Drink, and I will also give your camels a drink.' So I drank, and she made the camels drink also. 24:47I asked her, and said, 'Whose daughter are you?' She said, 'The daughter of Betu'el, Nachor's son, whom Milkah bore to him.' I put the ring on her nose, and the bracelets on her hands. 24:48I bowed my head, and worshiped Yahweh, and blessed Yahweh, the Mighty One of my master Avraham, who had led me in the right way to take my master's brother's daughter for his son. 24:49Now if you will deal kindly and truly with my master, tell me. If not, tell me. That I may turn to the right hand, or to the left."

24:50Then Lavan and Betu'el answered, "The thing proceeds from Yahweh. We can't speak to you bad or good. 24:51Behold, Rivka is before you, take her, and go, and let her be your master's son's wife, as Yahweh has spoken."

24:52It happened that when Avraham's servant heard their words, he bowed himself down to the eretz to Yahweh. 24:53The servant brought forth jewels of silver, and jewels of gold, and clothing, and gave them to Rivka. He gave also to her brother and to her mother precious things. 24:54They ate and drank, he and the men who were with him, and stayed all night. They rose up in the morning, and he said, "Send me away to my master."

24:55Her brother and her mother said, "Let the young lady stay with us a few days, at least ten. After that she will go."

24:56He said to them, "Don't hinder me, seeing Yahweh has prospered my way. Send me away that I may go to my master."

24:57They said, "We will call the young lady, and ask her." 24:58They called Rivka, and said to her, 'Will you go with this man?'"

She said, "I will go."

24:59They sent away Rivka, their sister, with her nurse, Avraham's servant, and his men. 24:60They blessed Rivka, and said to her, "Our sister, may you be the mother of thousands of ten thousands, and let your seed possess the gate of those who hate them."

24:61Rivka arose with her ladies. They rode on the camels, and followed the man. The servant took Rivka, and went his way. 24:62Yitzchak came from the way of Be'er-Lachai-Ro'i. For he lived in the land of the South. 24:63Yitzchak went out to meditate in the field at the evening. He lifted up his eyes, and saw, and, behold, there were camels coming. 24:64Rivka lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Yitzchak, she dismounted from the camel. 24:65She said to the servant, "Who is the man who is walking in the field to meet us?"

The servant said, "It is my master."

She took her veil, and covered herself. 24:66The servant told Yitzchak all the things that he had done. 24:67Yitzchak brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rivka, and she became his wife. He loved her. Yitzchak was comforted after his mother's death.

There is plenty to learn about prayer from Avraham's servant.

Avraham Was Confident That Yahweh Would Prosper His Servant's Way

24:6-8 shows that Avraham was confident that Yahweh would send his angel before Avraham's servant to bring to fruition the task that Avraham had set before his servant. That Avraham was so confident indicates that this instruction he was giving to his servant was in harmony with Yahweh's will. It can therefore be taken that it was indeed Yahweh's will that Yitzchak marry one of his relatives, and guided Avraham appropriately to send his servant to procure for Yitzchak such a qualifying wife.

A Woman Should Not Be Forced To Marry A Particular Man, Even One Yahweh Has Appointed Her For

24:8 also shows that even though Yahweh prepares for marriage a particular woman for a particular man, he does not force that woman or her family to agree to her marriage of that man that he has prepared her for. For Avraham understood that if the appointed woman was unwilling to accompany Avraham's servant in order to marry Yitzchak, she was not to be forced into the marriage. Thereby showing that a woman should not be forced into marrying a particular man, even if that man is the one that Yahweh has set for her to marry. A woman should be allowed freedom to determine whether or not she will abide by Yahweh's will for her life.

Avraham Had Faith That Yahweh Would Bring Success To His Servant's Mission

24:8 also shows that Avraham was indeed confident that his servant would succeed in meeting the woman appointed by Yahweh to be Yitzchak's wife. For he gave his servant instructions concerning what to do if the appointed woman refused to accompany him on his return journey. It is therefore evident that Avraham had faith in Yahweh in Yahweh succeeding in bringing Avraham's servant to the woman he had appointed to be Yitzchak's wife.

Success Lies In Yahweh's Hands

24:12-14 outlines Avraham's servant's prayer to Yahweh. Avraham's servant knew that success, whether in this mission or in other matters, lay in Yahweh's hands. It was therefore to Yahweh that he prayed, and not to some other deity.

Avraham Taught His Household To Worship Yahweh

It should also be noted that Avraham did not confine his worship of Yahweh to just himself, keeping it a private matter between only himself and Yahweh. For those in Avraham's household, including this servant of his, indeed understood Yahweh's ways, and prayed and worshipped Yahweh. It therefore appears that not only did Avraham's household understand Yahweh's ways, it also took action to abide by his ways.

Avraham's Servant Was Also A Servant Of Yahweh

Avraham's servant, understanding that success lay in Yahweh's hands, asked Yahweh to give him success in a manner that he clearly understood. It is therefore evident that Avraham's servant had faith in Yahweh responding to his prayers, indicating that he was indeed a worshipper of Yahweh.

Appropriate Respect Should Be Accorded To Yahweh In Praying To Him

24:26-27 shows that in praising Yahweh in prayer, appropriate respect needs to be accorded to Yahweh. This can be shown, as seen from Avraham's servant's example, by bowing one's head and worshipping Yahweh. And not only can this be done in private, but also in the presence of another human being.

Consent For The Marriage Of A Woman Should Be Obtained From Both Her And Her Family

24:41 shows that the authority of a woman marrying a particular man does not rest solely with the woman, but also with the woman's family. For in 24:8 it was seen that the woman had authority to decline to accompany Avraham's servant on his return journey, accompanying him in order to become Yitzchak's wife. Here in 24:41 it is seen that the woman's family likewise had authority to decline the marriage proposal. It therefore appears that in the case of a woman becoming married to a particular man, consent should be obtained from both the woman and her family.

Yahweh Hears Both Audible And Silent Prayers

24:45 shows that when Avraham's servant had prayed to Yahweh that Yahweh give him success in his mission, he had so prayed in his heart. Indicating that this prayer was not audible to the people accompanying him. Yet Yahweh heard his prayer and answered it. It is therefore evident that Yahweh hears both audible and silent prayers, prayers prayed in the heart.

Authority For Giving A Woman Away In Marriage Rests With The Male Head Of Household

24:50-51 shows that it is the men in the household who had authority in determining whether or not the appointed woman would be given away in marriage to Yitzchak. In this case the men who so gave authority were the woman's father and her brother. The woman's father being head of the household, and the woman's brother being next in line in authority in the household with respect to this matter.

It Is Appropriate For One To Publicly Thank And Praise Yahweh

24:52 shows Avraham's servant, after receiving confirmation from Rivka's father and brother that they had indeed accepted the marriage proposal, bowing to the earth to Yahweh in worship. In other words, he acknowledged his appreciation to Yahweh, for prospering his mission, by bowing himself to the earth. And this he did in public, in the presence of Rivka's family. It therefore appears that it is quite appropriate to show forth thanksgiving and praise to Yahweh by bowing oneself to the earth to Yahweh, even in the presence of other people.

Rivka's Family Understood That Rivka Had Authority To Accept Or Decline The Marriage Proposal

24:58 shows that Rivka's family, after having accepted the marriage proposal, giving Rivka the opportunity to so accept or decline the marriage proposal. Rivka's family understanding of the marriage process was therefore in harmony with Avraham's understanding of it. That both the woman's family and the woman must be given due opportunity to accept a marriage proposal, seeing that both have authority in this matter.

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